Today Mum got this letter in the mail
I thank you for your politeness and niceness on Saturday. I wish you well on your journey and hope things go well for you and the family. I am happy for you that you are enjoying E. and her children and you are happy. Enjoy what you have. Please leave me alone. My relationship with you has only ever been stressful. I love my life now. A."
The stress A. mentions is, to my mind, all imagined and one-way and comes from a small list of minor incidents that date back 10 years. There is so much more I could say but won't. I used to visit them at least once a month, but haven't done so for nearly 3 years. I see my brother and the kids occasionally, but I've spoken to her twice in that time.